Office breeds love
Studies have shown about one-third of
relationships start in an office setting.
Valentine’s Day has come and gone, but a mysterious card is pinned to
your cubicle, flowers hide behind your monitor, or chocolates are
tucked away in a drawer.
The office isn’t suspicious, despite longing glances, frequent
lunch dates, and erratic giggling outbursts. Yet, as office romance
evolves, so do the associated risks.
"There can be major ramifications dependent on the person and
the position in the company. It is uncomfortable whether it works or
doesn’t work," says Ruth Claramunt, matchmaker for Hearts
Introduction Service.
Once out in the open, gossip and rumours stew, resentment brews
and repercussions may result. Colleagues, feeling excluded, will
likely cry favouritism, seek revenge and snitch; especially, if
you’re dating the boss and in line for a promotion. There is also
company policy to watch out for, forbidding interoffice romances.
"A lot of places do not allow the dating of colleagues. It is
often an unwritten rule," says Claramunt.
But, if it’s true love, be upfront and honest with everyone right
from the get go, ensuring the relationship won’t interfere with
productivity. If that isn’t convincing enough, and you are determined
to pursue the relationship, consider changing departments or finding
a new job.
"You must park your feelings at the corporate door,"
says Dr. Barbara Moses, "Canada’s Career Guru" and
best-selling author of What Next? The Complete Guide To Taking
Control Of Your Working Life.
The interoffice breakup is the greatest fear for the couple and
the company. Not only can this hinder productivity, spark rumours,
and demolish reputations, but sexual harassment charges and other
lawsuits may arise, prompting job transfers, demotions or terminations.
"That is why it is frowned upon, unless you part in a
friendly manner. It is a dangerous situation and best not to get
involved," says Moses.
Despite this, according to Moses, studies have shown about one
third of all relationships start in the office. Like that of John
Belton (not his real name).
"To make it work takes a lot of self discipline. If you’re
working together, you have to forget work when you go home. If you
are living together, you have to forget home when you get to
work," says Belton, once his wife’s employer and now married for
a decade. "It sounds impossible, but it can be done."
Sophie Nicholls
for Metro Toronto
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